This inspirational mantra can be seen everywhere these days- instagram posts with a blurry forest background, journal covers, plaques, planners, pillows, t-shirts, basically anything that will sit still long enough. The implication is that you are rooted in your current circumstances and that you have to figure out a way to thrive where you are. While this all sounds great and motivational, it’s not always the case, and staying where you’re planted can actually do more harm than good.
To illustrate this, let’s talk about my yard. Years ago, I can’t even remember when at this point, our neighbors were doing yard work at the same time that my husband and I were, because, well, suburbs. They asked my husband to help dig up this sad, stumpy mess that appeared to be a crepe myrtle the previous owners had planted directly next to their rear porch/patio. It had been trying to grow, unsuccessfully, but its growth was being hampered by its proximity to the patio, and they were worried about the wisdom of having such a large bush that close to the house.
Our neighbor offered to help my husband dig a hole in our yard if we would take the crepe myrtle off of their hands and away from their patio. When it got over to our house, it was a sad clump of stumps that stood about hip high. It did not look promising at all. We plopped it in a nice big hole right in the middle of our yard and threw in some compost and plenty of water. We’ve pruned it yearly, if we remember, but mostly we’ve ignored it. And to say that this crepe myrtle has thrived in its current location would be the understatement of the year. It’s now just about as tall as our house and absolutely filthy with blooms every year. Our neighbors have been so thrilled to be able to enjoy their former nuisance bush from their home across the street. That crepe myrtle was NOT going to bloom where it was originally planted. It had to be moved in order for it to thrive.
Sometimes the same could be said for us too, that we can’t always bloom where we’ve been planted. Any number of factors in your life could change that would necessitate a move.
That charming two room bungalow with one bathroom that you bought when you were pregnant with your first child probably won’t work for you once you welcome baby number three. And once those sweet babies go off to college and start their own lives, that 3,500 square foot house in the primo school district with high property taxes might not be the best use of your resources any longer. You could even find yourself needing to accommodate an aging parent, necessitating multiple living areas and fewer stairs. A new career could mean no time to maintain a large yard, leaving you to resent and regret a large and high-maintenance property.
As your life and circumstances change, don’t lament that you and your family are no longer blooming where you’ve been planted. It might be as simple a fix as it was for our crepe myrtle. You might just need to be uprooted and replanted in a better spot. Interested in chatting about replanting yourself? Click to contact me or comment below.